I am a gay male and grew up with ‘faggot’ being a proverbial bullet tossed at me walking down hallways. My boyfriend in high school would ask me to hold hands, insecure because of the lack of PDA I would show, and I knew, I knew exactly how things would play out. Least to say after doing it once, he never wanted to hold my hand in public at school again.
I get the negative connotation that surrounds the word Fag. I’m not trying to be offensive, I’m not trying to even be provocative.
I wear the word FAG like a dual badge of fucking honor. If being a FAG means being someone who likes other men, so be it. If being a FAG means being effeminate , work it. I am personally tired of people giving power to words that can have any meaning.
FAG to me is a FUCKING AWESOME GUY. FAG to me is someone who is in control of their sexuality and in touch with their feminine side and doesn’t give a fuck what some loser who is trying to belittle them thinks.
Fag is one of many taboo words with not so pleasant connotations. I got into a debate with someone where they equated gay men calling each other ‘fags’ to that of black men and women calling each other ‘niggas’ and it reminded me of one of the truest things I’ve ever heard out of painted lips (or text online, I wish I could have heard this story in real life)
A brilliant drag queen by the name of Bob the Drag Queen did a pictorial with Magnus Hasting, his mug was painted to represent black face. (See the picture below)
Bob knew the picture was controversial, but had an amazing parable in relation to what people thought of it.
‘A young boy comes home with tears streaming down his face. His mother ask “What’s the matter?” He tells her that he is mad because a kid at school called him a “nigger” and she said “Are you a nigger?” the little boy yelled, “NO!” The mother said “Well he was mistaken.” It was at that moment that he realized that he doesn’t have to be what people tell him he is. He thought to himself only a person who considers themselves a nigger should be offended when they get called one.
Now take that story and replace the word Fag with the N word. Take any offensive word and replace it with the N word.
We don’t have to let words created in hate dictate how we feel about ourselves and instead of making words negative, we can turn these words around into something positive.
A Fag to me is a FUCKING AWESOME GUY and it’s also an amazing acronym. (Mental note: Get T-Shirts made) I hope anyone that gives my podcast a chance doesn’t hear that word and automatically become offended or turned off- because that is not my intention. This show is hear to promote FUCKING AWESOME GUYS and FUCKING AWESOME GALS.
That is all.